“Cultivating independence, embracing clear communication, and shining your inner light in love.”
The person embodying the Hermit archetype is an introvert. Although he (or she) can survive in social settings, he thrives best when allowed to retreat to his inner world. For his sanity, the Hermit will often withdraw from external pressures to study, create, or process his emotions. Any person who enters a relationship with the Hermit, must be comfortable with his desire to retreat. In love, the Hermit is attracted to maturity. He is not impressed by people who strive to maintain a superficial image. The Hermit peers directly into the spirit of the person he is connecting with. The independent Hermit never looks for a relationship to complete him. This can lead to misunderstandings with a partner who desires ceaseless attention. A Hermit personality thrives best with a partner who is equally independent and self-reliant. At his best, the Hermit is wise, intelligent, thoughtful, sensitive, trustworthy, and authentic. At his worst he can be reclusive, remote, overly serious, or a depressive curmudgeon.
The Hermit (Upright) in a Love Reading
New Relationship
Even in the beginning of a relationship, a Hermit partner will habitually withdraw to recenter and process. Although this person cares, he (or she) will be frequently absent due to physical proximity or other obligations. If both partners are independent and self-reliant this connection holds potential. However, mutual affection must be communicated and understood.
Long Term Partnership
Hermit partnerships thrive on independence. There is likely a deep bond between both people, but also a desire to periodically retreat, replenish, or work on independent goals. Both partners might even prefer to sleep in separate places. The Hermit is a natural scholar, artist, or deep thinker who lives more in his inner landscape than he does with others.
Seeking Romance
The appearance of the Hermit does not mean that you are doomed to be alone! Seeking an authentic love takes time. This card often mirrors a feeling that you are walking through the dark. Much like the Hermit, you can’t see your way fully through the passing shadow. Your inner light is illuminating the next step to take. Choose the wise path. Love will follow.
The Hermit (Reversed) in a Love Reading
New Relationship
The Hermit reversed might find it awkward to connect with others, having “gone it alone” for so long. This person truly desires to connect in a meaningful partnership but may lack some basic relationship skills. This person will also retreat when his feelings are hurt, or he feels misunderstood. Communication does not always come easy for the Hermit reversed.
Long Term Partnership
The Hermit reversed can represent an overly critical partner in a relationship. He (or she) is a scorekeeper and will analyze their partner’s every word looking for inconsistencies. Instead of self-reflection, they may focus on what they think everyone else needs to improve. This is often a smokescreen for feeling neglected or not knowing how to ask for what they need.
Seeking Romance
The Hermit reversed can signify that it’s time to rejoin the world of the living. Becoming too isolated can feel safe and comfortable because you are never challenged to grow. It may be time to take slow and steady steps into society again. Don’t be afraid of calling more attention to yourself and sharing your light.
Deeply grateful to you Elliot. definitely my favorite interpretations of Tarot every time!